The Power of AND™: Allowing REAL Peace and SO Much More

Have you had enough?

Many years ago, I was deeply touched by a powerful line in the film, “Conversations with God” (based on the real events that opened a life-changing dialogue and series of books for author Neale Donald Walsch, co-founder of Humanity's Team/Humanity Stream+), a movie included with my subscription to a good-vibe cinema club called, “The Spiritual Cinema Circle,” co-founded by Stephen Simon (producer of “What Dreams May Come” and many more). 

In this powerful auto-biography, Neale faced challenges on EVERY front – the dissolution of his marriage, loss of a job, physical injury, and even homelessness.  As he started to make positive changes, including securing a lease on an actual apartment, one day, he arrived at his newly acquired job to find that his place of work had suddenly - and very literally - closed its doors with no warning: And he was, for lack of a better term, devastated.

At a total loss about what to do next, he inadvertently “let go” and reached a point of total surrender; then in a moment of quiet, he heard the words, “Have you had enough?”, echo from his own mind.  From this point forward, he started receiving thoughts and ideas that led to his own sense of ever-increasing hope, and a deeper understanding of unconditional love, joy, and well-being, that ultimately evolved into a best-selling series of books that has since inspired over 7 million readers world-wide.

Speaking of challenges…

Like SO many humans living in the 21^st century, I found myself wracking my brain.

I thought, “Here we are, living in a highly evolved world, having learned SO much about Life, the Universe and Everything, with all manner of healing modalities & tools available, a multitude of ways to earn income, access to a modern-day, seemingly endless ‘Library of Alexandria’ with new AI assistants to help us further fine-tune our questions & answers on ANY subject…

…Yet old wars continue, new wars begin, dis-eases run rampant, and humans allow conflict to degrade relationships with their spouses, families, and friends.

On one particular day, after feeling especially weary over the many uncontrollable and crazy series of events happening in “the land of the free” and world-wide, my husband asked me that same pivotal question, “Have you had enough?”

…And when, at a cellular level, I finally, fully answered, “Yes!”, I was ultimately led to my own proverbial “door number 3"; a whole “new” way of viewing life that set a fundamental internal shift into motion which has since positively impacted my health, flow of abundance, and is already transforming my personal and professional relationships in beautiful, once unimagined ways.

If you, too, are sick and tired of letting the uncontrollable drive you over the edge, and are also ready to answer, “Yes!”, to “Have YOU had enough?”, consider opening your heart and mind to “The Power of AND™.”

Discovering The Power of AND™

As many of my students & clients who understand Law of Attraction and The Power of Focus know, one of THE fastest routes to aligning with solutions and opening flow is to focus on a different, resistance-free subject that feels light, happy, and successful.  So, in the interest of “Physician, heal thySELF!”, I decided to lean into one of my favorite good-vibe, go-to subjects: The extraordinary relationship I share with my husband and best friend, John.

Somehow, some way, two desires, which seemed like polar opposites - my desire to feel and experience true personal freedom AND a deep connection with another human in a long-term committed, loving relationship - came together in the most magical, yet natural of ways.

As I considered the process of what happened before, during, and after we connected, fell in love, married, and successfully navigated even the most extreme of life challenges together with grace over the last two decades+, there was an aspect that really stood out to me:  Where most couples feel that compromise is THE key to long-term happiness (meaning there are always “either/or” options that result in one party “winning”, with the other party “losing” in even the smallest way), our beginnings and continuing relationship dynamic revolves around something entirely different…

Rather than “Or”, we chose – and continue to choose - “AND.”

…And when I applied this principle and philosophy of living to wellness, abundance, and even current global events, I realized I had discovered a perspective that had far-reaching benefits that can touch virtually EVERY type of human experience, along with the potential to create a paradigm shift that always allows for a way forward – regardless of individual life circumstances, or who is holding the “baton of power” at any given moment.

The BIG Picture of AND

Let’s face it, the old ways of “Everyone must do THIS or else!” or “Everyone must believe the SAME things and live the SAME way” has NEVER worked in the long-term, has NEVER been sustainable, and the concept of a "winner" and a "loser" - where someone else always gets the short end of the stick - has NEVER been a truly viable solution.

It’s no wonder humanity has repeated the same ridiculous cycles based on limitation and lack since the dawn of time!  No. One. Wants. To. Keep. Losing.

I found it SO very ironic that so many people also love the quote "Those that don't study history are doomed to repeat it", yet every living generation has absolutely been made aware of history - even continued to seek it out - and yet, mass consciousness continues to activate the same cycles over and over!

Humanity as a whole also seems to believe that the answer lies in fighting against or pushing the "bad" away - or that somehow, “bad” can be eliminated or destroyed for all time – but, like it or not, a multitude of beliefs and ways of being have and always will exist, just as things like birth and death, day and night, and up and down continue to co-exist simultaneously in different times and spaces since the birth of planet earth.

Perhaps instead of repeating the patterns that have NEVER created long-term solutions and do NOT eradicate the "good" or the "bad" (the "us" vs "them" + fight + war + the one with the biggest guns or the greatest # still alive wins), we let dark events and moments mobilize us to turn toward the light; to act in ways that ARE helpful; to move in the direction of the values we cherish; to even have the audacity to create something NEW…

...and from THAT place, INVITE all who are open and willing to join us.

Unlike what we’ve been sold and told, “winning” the game of life does not mean that someone or something else has to be diminished or destroyed. 

You “win” by having the courage to choose and continue to move in the direction of the good you WANT to experience.

Rather than try to dismantle or eliminate the people, systems, or beliefs we don’t like, what if we decided to just create something NEW that is all about providing community, possibility, and BEING the "lighthouse" or "safehouse” we think someone else should provide?

What if instead of continuing to push against and keep conflict and struggles raging both externally and within (a sure-fire way to keep dis-ease happening in the human body and mind, BTW), you resolved to step off of the battle field, and moved up to the high ground to create a NEW place and experience where YOU get to choose and claim your OWN freedom & peace?

Why Humans Choose “Or”

I can already hear you thinking:

There are only so many hours in a day.  How can I choose “AND” when time is finite?

There is only one trophy at the end of the match. How can I choose “AND” when there is a clear winner or loser?

I prefer monogamy/marriage/commitment and my partner has to agree for this to work.  How can I choose “AND” if my partner wants something else?

We can only be in one space at a time.  How can I choose “AND” when someone else wants my space?

The answer to these questions is both simple yet, in the realm of human emotions, deeply complex:

We choose “Or” instead of “AND” because of “attachment” to “it”.

Any time we decide that something HAS to be “it”; that "it" HAS to happen at an exact time, with an exact outcome, in an exact space, and with an exact person, we immediately introduce inner (and, in many cases outer) conflict, which is, by the way, the opposite of flow.

While I believe having a focal point, feelings of connection, a sense of purpose, and clear direction calls good energy through us (aka is healthy and helpful), I’m no stranger to the “devastated” feeling Neale felt when he thought his “it” (in the form of the income he needed to keep moving forward and the job he really liked) went away.  Like Neale, I’ve had many of my “it” things go in very different and unexpected directions, but I can honestly say that EVERY time I let go and let God (aka Life/Source/Intelligence) lead me to the REAL “IT” that I was actually seeking, the other “it” (that I once thought was the end-all-be-all) didn’t even hold a candle to THE big, beautiful, custom-made-just-for-me “IT”!

No matter who you are, all humans can still have moments of getting attached to some form of a lesser “it”, but another lovely aspect of The Power of AND™ is this:

Even when you do feel the unpleasant pang of attachment, you can know that you are also having an “AND” moment: You can feel funky AND understand that a part of you has also started the journey of healthy connection to your REAL “it” and true personal freedom*!

*BTW: To feed and activate feelings of personal freedom, check out this feel-good, energizing MUSIC VIDEO: https://youtu.be/jA6YYW3C1i4?si=i8LfJ5T6fNRBA4aR

The “BPI”: Connection to the REAL “it”

If you really think about it, EVERY intention tends to orbit around some version of what I call the “BPI” or “Big Picture Intention”:

“I am loving ME, and having a GREAT TIME, while becoming MORE.”

Let’s break this down: “I am loving ME…” Even if your sole mission in life is to be of service to others, if you feel that being of service makes for a good person, BEING a good person and taking good actions creates a sense of inner peace and is (whether you realize it or not) linked to greater self-love & respect (aka “I am loving ME…”).  AND when you are experiencing greater self-love, you are a whole, healthy person who truly HAS love to give.

“…And having a GREAT TIME...”

Whether you want more money, a healthier body, a wonderful relationship, family harmony, a nice place to live, to fulfill your sense of purpose, to share creations that uplift humanity, or even world peace, all of these things would indeed make for “Having a great time…”, as – let’s be real – if life was truly meant to suck and no joy was available or allowed to be had, why oh why would we even be here?!

 “…While becoming MORE.”

In my experience, few people enjoy utter boredom and living a life with zero evolution.  Could you imagine what life would be like if we were born and stayed in full-on baby form for the rest of our lives?  I don’t know about you, but living in diapers and having someone else wipe my butt until the day I croak is NOT the reason I decided to get all 3-D and squishy!

I believe, whether we acknowledge this consciously or not, that it IS human nature to learn grow, and boldly (or at the very least gently) GO.  Besides, the more you cultivate true self-love (“I am loving ME…”), and discover ways to enjoy the journey of life (“…And having a GREAT TIME…), you can’t help the “…While becoming MORE.” part.

Where there is expansion and movement, there is LIFE and (I think) it’s infinitely more fun to choose to move Onward, Upward & Forward, rather than go kicking and screaming!

All in all, when it comes to intentions, prayers, goals, and desires, some humans have VERY specific ideas in mind, whereas others are far more general and BOTH can be beneficial.  But one thing is certain: When you release unhealthy attachments to a lesser “it” and discover & create a healthy connection to the BPI, (your REAL “it”), that is when life, the Universe, and Everything can then work its magic to bring all manner of bonuses, upgrades, AND happy surprises!

Imagine what life could be like if more humans stopped giving all their power away to yet another uncontrollable system, entity, or “it”, and decided to find and focus upon their REAL “IT”?

The Bottom Line: Allowing REAL Peace - and SO Much More - with The Power of AND™

Even during the most horrific of times in history, there have been those who DID make it out, who didn't board the Titanic, and who DID discover the next remedy/invention/solution AND way forward.  It's a shame that history has leaned far more into the stories of tragedy than studying the wise ones who consistently chose peace AND found ways to thrive, despite the events and culture of the moment.

Whether you are looking at relationships, career, health, or even local, national, and global community, once you open to the idea that The Power of AND™  is not only possible, but that it is a path that reflects the very expression of life itself - which is also happens to be a path that is highly natural, joyful, healthy, and even an extremely profitable way of living and being -  operating from “AND” changes EVERYTHING.

For far too long we have been taught to identify, fear, and fight against a common enemy; that THIS is the path to salvation, getting ahead, being healthy, being worthy of love, and living “the good life”, but how can any being ever find peace by waging continual war with an outer or inner enemy?

Yes, time, space, and human company is finite, but when you open to AND, plus turn your gaze to the BPI and REAL “it” that truly matters to you, you begin to see more and more of life’s array of infinite possibilities, AND continue to find yourself at THE place, at THE time, with THE person/people, having THE experiences that continue to move YOU forward.

Imagine a world where all finally understand…

…That life is, was, and always will be about AND? ------------------------------------------------------------------------

There are FAR more implications, opportunities, nuances, and applications for The Power of AND™ than I can share in a single article, friends, so I’ll be sharing more ways to live and embody The Power of AND™ in my next course, “Law of Attraction: Healthy & Well!”, new Podcast series, “Onward, Upward & Forward!”, upcoming book, The Power of AND™: The Paradigm Shift that changes EVERYTHING (already in process!), and MORE! Organizations that I'm proud to be a part of that ARE making a difference in the world & truly embody "The Power of AND": Humanity's Team/Humanity Stream+ A 501(C)(3) non-profit organization whose mission is to help humanity reach a point of critical mass for conscious evolution by providing evolutionary courses, movies, music, and tools to empower individuals & communities! CLICK HERE to Discover More Transformation Academy An online education platform dedicated to igniting a revolution of personal freedom through entrepreneurship and education, empowering each individual to live life on their terms, fulfill their potential, and embrace their greater purpose. CLICK HERE to Discover More This article is featured in the August 2025 Issue of Transformation Magazine. For more GOOD news and FREE access to all articles, CLICK HERE